What is is that makes the men that make these comments feel that way I wonder? It is men that comment, women seem to just stay away, knowing that these type of comments dominate in this type of forum. What is it about the concept of feminism that is so hard to take for some people? The dictionary defines a feminist as one who supports feminism, this being defined as the advocacy of women's rights on the grounds of equality of the sexes. So again I ask why this is so hard to take? If there is equality for both sexes, doesn't that just make the world better for all of us? Just like fighting for equality for those who are non white to non heterosexual does. The thing is, equality is not like a cake which will run out, there is as much as you could need for everyone, it is like love in that respect, love breeds love and in the same way, equality can breed equality.
I have a few theories why some men and some women have problem with the concept:
1/ They don't understand it; some people think it means forcing men and women to be the same. This is just not true, equality of choices doesn't mean everyone has to be the same but rather that they can choose from a broader menu than the stifling one considered appropriate for their sex. This makes life better for all of us, women who may want to be plumbers and men who may want to be nursery school teachers to give a slightly flip example.
2/ I find this hard to believe but some people may still believe that feminism still brings with it the hairy-legged lesbian trope and don't want to identify with that.
3/ They believe that men and women have equality already so the fight is over. We have come a long, long way and I am the first to point out how much better life has become for women, gay people and non-white ethnic groups in any discussion. This does not mean that all is well when society still is set up in a way that does not offer equality of opportunity to all of us. Even if you could argue that in the UK that is no longer true (which I would disagree with), look around the world and you will see some truly stunning examples of the way women are disadvantaged by the culture they live in.
So, my invitation is to come and join me in the lovely warm pool of kind, inclusive, humanist feminism, just like all the isms I believe in, it will make life more lovely for us all and who can argue with that?